Question: I am a student in a clinical counseling psych. MA program,
I have been doing an internship for the past 9 months and have decided
to work with the concept of forgiveness with several of my clients. I have
been researching this for awhile and have some of my own work to use as
a point of reference.
I would like to hear any thoughts, stories etc. on this concept.
Answer:
Forgiveness means that there is something to forgive.
If we think that there is something to forgive, it means that we would like these things to be different from what they are.
If we wish things to be different from what they are, it means that there is no acceptance.
If there is acceptance, there is unity with the things as they are.
The question of choice does not arise.
If there is no choice, there is nothing to forgive.
Forgiveness allows the thought that there is somebody who forgives.
Who is this I who forgives?
Look for him, you will never find him.
So if there is nobody who forgives, the question of forgiveness no longer arises.
From the Spiramed Internet Forum , May 23, 1997